Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Sir Charles & Kitten #10

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nHow lucky am I today? I get two kinksters instead of one!! Please welcome the husband and wife duo, Sir Charles and Kitten. I’m thrilled to have them both share what makes them kinky and what it’s like in their D/s relationship.

IMG_1517Blakely: Hi, Sir Charles and Kitten. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you both kinky.
Sir Charles: Hi, Blakely! Happy to be here.
Kitten: Hi, Blakely! To speed the answering and editing along, Sir has insisted that I wear a butt plug while I do this. :)

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Sir Charles: My mentor told me that if you put a finger in a lady’s bum and you both enjoy it, you’re kinky.
Kitten: Everything beyond missionary position sex! Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Nicholas Tanek #9

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease welcome Kinkster Nicholas Tanek. He’s going to share with us today what makes him kinky and what really makes him hard and gets him excited. This is a long and very interesting interview so hold on to your hats!

IMG_0747Blakely: Hi Nicholas Tanek. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Nicholas: Hello, Blakely. It is a pleasure to speak with you. I commend you on the fact that you are promoting awareness of the BDSM and fetish communities.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Nicholas: To me, it is something that is off from the norm in terms of sexuality. For the average person, they are ashamed and have suppressed these urges. I embrace it. Life is short. So, examples could range from vanilla to hardcore. Vanilla kink would be the simple stuff like handcuffs, light rope, restraints, blindfolds, dildos, butt plugs, etc. Hardcore? Hmm… consensual rape play, male chastity devices, forced feminization, urinating on people, extreme bondage, breath play, humiliation, etc. Continue reading

The Importance of Being a Dad

ID-10036590I’m not one of those gifted with good relationships with my fathers (father and stepfather) and maybe because of that, I can speak to the importance a dad can play in a young girl’s life.

My father and I were never what I would call close. I honestly thought he didn’t like me. Being myself around him was hard because I didn’t feel comfortable or emotionally safe. As a little girl, I was starved for his attention. I think my efforts to get him to see me just pissed him off. It wasn’t until I was 28 that I had the courage (after years of not speaking) to ask him the one thing I really wanted to know. Did he like me? It may sound silly, but I wanted to know the truth. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Chainz Payne #8

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm hugs and a wet kisses to Kinkster Chainz Payne. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. Hopefully, we will all learn something or at the very least get a few new good ideas. :)

Blakely: Hi Chainz Payne. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Chainz: Hi, Thank you for letting me share what I call my wonderland.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Chainz: Being turned on in a non traditional way, to some maybe past the point of so called normal. I think it’s the point where wild, sexual, and weird meet! Continue reading

Me? A Sex Advocate?

ID-10075840My true calling is definitely being an author, but I think a close second might have been as a sex therapist. Maybe because I believe sex is such an important factor for a healthy, long-term relationship, I find myself sometimes pushing and prodding my friends to make changes, which will leave them more satisfied (in my not so humble opinion).

Since I’m sexually open, I think people tend to be honest with me about their sex lives. At that point, if I see something they themselves can do to make it better—because they are complaining—I can be pretty blatant with my advice. On several occasions, it’s really made a difference for them so it hasn’t discouraged my behavior. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Miss Chief #7

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm hugs and a wet, juicy snogs to Kinkster Miss Chief. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. I’m really excited about this one. 😉

Blakely: Hi Miss Chief. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Miss Chief: Hi Blakely, thank you for having me. I’ll try and keep this clean as possible.. Pffft who am I kidding!! We don’t want clean do we?? Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner #6

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nI’m excited to introduce you to Kinkster Vivienne Kaye. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. I learned something new during this interview, maybe you will too. 😉

Blakely: Hi Vivienne Kaye. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Vivienne: Thank you for inviting me Blakely. Continue reading

Cunnilingus or Not?

500px-Emoticon_tongue.svgAfter a conversation with a friend, I feel compelled to write about this today. All men I have ever met think they are god’s gift to going down on a woman. My guy friends tell me this all the time. Sorry dudes but I beg to differ. Not all clits are created the same, which I know because of the fervor over the Hitachi vibrator that to me is akin to the devil. However, I’ve been with enough men to know that when they get excited, it becomes more about what they like to do than what the recipient underneath them enjoys, at least when it comes to licking the clit. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner 5th episode

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm hugs and a wet kisses to Kinkster VM Holk. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. Hopefully, we will all learn something or at the very least get a few new good ideas. :) Continue reading