I guess it’s not a complete surprise to me. I don’t think I’ve ever fallen in love online, although I definitely love friends I have met online and have yet to met in person. It’s definitely a different kind of love, but it’s still there.
Way back before online, I was briefly on a dating phone system. I met my third long-term boyfriend that way. It was rather simple and anonymous. You placed a voice ad and you could put your phone on forwarding. If a man wanted to talk to you, he would leave a brief message, which you could respond to by allowing the call through or by declining. They wouldn’t know your number unless you gave it to them. But of course, it wasn’t weeks or months to meet up if there was mutual interest and the calls were all local.
Jump forward a few years and I was on America Online (AOL) and hanging in chat rooms. There were actually in-person AOL parties where I met friends and a few lovers I’d been chatting with so I’m not completely ignorant to the possibility of love online (never did fall for any of them).
For me online is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it seems to allow people to be more open about themselves, but it’s also easy for people to portray themselves as someone other than they are. For instance, I had a few experiences years ago with men who said they were masculine and dominant and yet when we met up, they couldn’t even look me in the eyes.
I met my husband the old-fashioned way by moving into an apartment complex he already resided in. Lucky me!
The wonderful thing about online to me is that I get to meet people from all over the world, whom I would never otherwise ever get to know. Our huge world has scaled down to a hop online and I absolutely love that. Plus, I’m more introverted than extraverted and so I can connect when I want to and retreat when I need.
I personal love technology and if people are successfully, as my Facebook friends have clearly stated, in finding love, I can’t think of a better use for it. Plus, I would have never met such wonderful people who I now call friends.
One last thing, with camming available it seems you can get a real good sense of a person prior to traveling across the country or across the world to meet up.
After all the wonderful comments by my Facebook friends, I definitely believe you can fall in love online. CLICK HERE for that conversation.