His Domain

own riskIn some ways, my husband and I fall into the traditional gender roles. If we found ourselves in a dangerous situation, he would put me behind him and protect us both. And just last week when the bat flew into our house, I screamed like a silly woman and let him handle it. In most other ways, we share the traditional gender roles between us, like shopping, cooking, cleaning, and child rearing. However, the garage is most definitely his domain and I tend to stay out of it. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Domidique #14

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm welcome to Domidique. I can’t wait to see what he has to share with us today. I love being educated about the lifestyles in the kink world.

Blakely: Hi Domidique. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Domidique: Genetics. 😉 I think it may be that my folks passed down something in the gene pool.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Domidique: In the beginning, I didn’t know I was kinky, but then there are some things you never should say out loud at parties, because it stops all conversations and out of the silence someone says, “That’s kinky.” Continue reading

A Thousand More

DSC_0280resizeI’m feeling so much better, more myself, more open, more emotional. They seem to go together. I have so much appreciation bubbling over for my husband today. He’s really the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I wish everyone would get the chance to feel adored and treasured as my husband leaves me feeling daily. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Mistress Mayhem #12

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm hugs and wet kisses to Mistress Mayhem. I look forward to reading each and every interview. I love being educated about the lifestyles in the kink world.

fetBlakely: Hi Mistress Mayhem. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Mistress Mayhem: Thanks for having me, Blakely! I’m excited to share my kinky little world.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Mistress Mayhem: I think kink is about challenging the norms that others subscribe to blindly. It’s exploring what turns you on and finding like minded people who have that same thirst. Continue reading

I’m Soooo Jealous!

20150713_155042Yesterday we went on a tour of Western Washington University, our daughter’s college of choice, and it’s the perfect fit for her. It’s on the sound, surrounded by woods and mountains. Not only is it a gorgeous location, but the medium size school is totally progressive.

I can’t help wishing (whistfully) to be young again. I’m not really jealous, but maybe slightly envious. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Stella #11

Please give warm welcome to Stella. I can’t wait to see what she has to share with us today. I love being educated about the lifestyles in the kink world.

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Blakely: Hi Stella. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Stella: Thank you for the opportunity.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Stella: I define ‘kinky’ as that which gives us pleasure that is outside the perceived ‘norm’ of which is considered acceptable.

Blakely: Do you consider yourself a TOP, a bottom (Dom or sub) or a switch or something else entirely?
Stella: I am a submissive. I enjoy pleasing my partners and that is where I derive my pleasure. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Sir Charles & Kitten #10

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nHow lucky am I today? I get two kinksters instead of one!! Please welcome the husband and wife duo, Sir Charles and Kitten. I’m thrilled to have them both share what makes them kinky and what it’s like in their D/s relationship.

IMG_1517Blakely: Hi, Sir Charles and Kitten. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you both kinky.
Sir Charles: Hi, Blakely! Happy to be here.
Kitten: Hi, Blakely! To speed the answering and editing along, Sir has insisted that I wear a butt plug while I do this. 🙂

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Sir Charles: My mentor told me that if you put a finger in a lady’s bum and you both enjoy it, you’re kinky.
Kitten: Everything beyond missionary position sex! Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Nicholas Tanek #9

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease welcome Kinkster Nicholas Tanek. He’s going to share with us today what makes him kinky and what really makes him hard and gets him excited. This is a long and very interesting interview so hold on to your hats!

IMG_0747Blakely: Hi Nicholas Tanek. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Nicholas: Hello, Blakely. It is a pleasure to speak with you. I commend you on the fact that you are promoting awareness of the BDSM and fetish communities.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Nicholas: To me, it is something that is off from the norm in terms of sexuality. For the average person, they are ashamed and have suppressed these urges. I embrace it. Life is short. So, examples could range from vanilla to hardcore. Vanilla kink would be the simple stuff like handcuffs, light rope, restraints, blindfolds, dildos, butt plugs, etc. Hardcore? Hmm… consensual rape play, male chastity devices, forced feminization, urinating on people, extreme bondage, breath play, humiliation, etc. Continue reading

The Importance of Being a Dad

ID-10036590I’m not one of those gifted with good relationships with my fathers (father and stepfather) and maybe because of that, I can speak to the importance a dad can play in a young girl’s life.

My father and I were never what I would call close. I honestly thought he didn’t like me. Being myself around him was hard because I didn’t feel comfortable or emotionally safe. As a little girl, I was starved for his attention. I think my efforts to get him to see me just pissed him off. It wasn’t until I was 28 that I had the courage (after years of not speaking) to ask him the one thing I really wanted to know. Did he like me? It may sound silly, but I wanted to know the truth. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Chainz Payne #8

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm hugs and a wet kisses to Kinkster Chainz Payne. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. Hopefully, we will all learn something or at the very least get a few new good ideas. 🙂

Blakely: Hi Chainz Payne. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Chainz: Hi, Thank you for letting me share what I call my wonderland.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Chainz: Being turned on in a non traditional way, to some maybe past the point of so called normal. I think it’s the point where wild, sexual, and weird meet! Continue reading