His Domain

own riskIn some ways, my husband and I fall into the traditional gender roles. If we found ourselves in a dangerous situation, he would put me behind him and protect us both. And just last week when the bat flew into our house, I screamed like a silly woman and let him handle it. In most other ways, we share the traditional gender roles between us, like shopping, cooking, cleaning, and child rearing. However, the garage is most definitely his domain and I tend to stay out of it. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Mistress Mayhem #12

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm hugs and wet kisses to Mistress Mayhem. I look forward to reading each and every interview. I love being educated about the lifestyles in the kink world.

fetBlakely: Hi Mistress Mayhem. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Mistress Mayhem: Thanks for having me, Blakely! I’m excited to share my kinky little world.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Mistress Mayhem: I think kink is about challenging the norms that others subscribe to blindly. It’s exploring what turns you on and finding like minded people who have that same thirst. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Stella #11

Please give warm welcome to Stella. I can’t wait to see what she has to share with us today. I love being educated about the lifestyles in the kink world.

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Blakely: Hi Stella. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Stella: Thank you for the opportunity.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Stella: I define ‘kinky’ as that which gives us pleasure that is outside the perceived ‘norm’ of which is considered acceptable.

Blakely: Do you consider yourself a TOP, a bottom (Dom or sub) or a switch or something else entirely?
Stella: I am a submissive. I enjoy pleasing my partners and that is where I derive my pleasure. Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Sir Charles & Kitten #10

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nHow lucky am I today? I get two kinksters instead of one!! Please welcome the husband and wife duo, Sir Charles and Kitten. I’m thrilled to have them both share what makes them kinky and what it’s like in their D/s relationship.

IMG_1517Blakely: Hi, Sir Charles and Kitten. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you both kinky.
Sir Charles: Hi, Blakely! Happy to be here.
Kitten: Hi, Blakely! To speed the answering and editing along, Sir has insisted that I wear a butt plug while I do this. 🙂

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Sir Charles: My mentor told me that if you put a finger in a lady’s bum and you both enjoy it, you’re kinky.
Kitten: Everything beyond missionary position sex! Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Chainz Payne #8

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm hugs and a wet kisses to Kinkster Chainz Payne. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. Hopefully, we will all learn something or at the very least get a few new good ideas. 🙂

Blakely: Hi Chainz Payne. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Chainz: Hi, Thank you for letting me share what I call my wonderland.

Blakely: What’s your definition of kinky?
Chainz: Being turned on in a non traditional way, to some maybe past the point of so called normal. I think it’s the point where wild, sexual, and weird meet! Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner with Miss Chief #7

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm hugs and a wet, juicy snogs to Kinkster Miss Chief. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. I’m really excited about this one. 😉

Blakely: Hi Miss Chief. Thank you so much for joining us today! We are all looking forward to finding out what makes you kinky.
Miss Chief: Hi Blakely, thank you for having me. I’ll try and keep this clean as possible.. Pffft who am I kidding!! We don’t want clean do we?? Continue reading

Blakely’s Kinky Korner 5th episode

11186350_1066502983379071_388392555_nPlease give warm hugs and a wet kisses to Kinkster VM Holk. She is going to share with us today what makes her kinky and what really turns her on. Hopefully, we will all learn something or at the very least get a few new good ideas. 🙂 Continue reading

Why Every Woman Should Masturbate

6212484239_bddc00230a_zI’m a masturbation enthusiast. I believe learning the ins and outs of yourself (so to speak) makes you a better lover and most definitely a better teacher for your partner on what works for you.

My husband recently shared with me an article called 13 Reasons Every Woman Should Masturbate Regularly. Before I delve into Alanna Vagianos’s reasons, I’d like to reiterate a couple of my own. Continue reading

Is it really me … or is it you?

8635216355_51c0b326bf_zWhy is it that when someone doesn’t like me or what I create, my response is to like myself less instead of liking them less? Last night, sitting on the couch with my husband watching a movie, my mind wandered and the above is what came to me.

Anthropologically it makes sense to me. We, as a species, needed to care what the tribe thought so we could all survive.

Most of us care about what other people think. I get that. Short of the few narcissists I have met in my life, it seems to plague all of us to some extent. Continue reading

My New Year’s Resolutions for 2015

calvin-hobbes-new-years-resolutionsIt’s that time again to focus on our goals and resolutions for the upcoming year. I reread mine from last year and many will be the same for this year. I almost hit all my writing goals (different stories than I imagined), which is good and bad. I still haven’t found a good balance between writing, social media and relaxing. I definitely worked too much this year as well. So here goes: Continue reading