Why Every Woman Should Masturbate

6212484239_bddc00230a_zI’m a masturbation enthusiast. I believe learning the ins and outs of yourself (so to speak) makes you a better lover and most definitely a better teacher for your partner on what works for you.

My husband recently shared with me an article called 13 Reasons Every Woman Should Masturbate Regularly. Before I delve into Alanna Vagianos’s reasons, I’d like to reiterate a couple of my own.

Women my age, most especially, should masturbate regularly. It keeps our sexuality alive and keeps the most important parts moist. There wisdom in “use it or lose it.” Plus ladies, it feels wonderful!

Alanna’s list is great. Definitely check out her article. Here’s my favs from her blog:
2. You become more comfortable with your body. (Concurs with my statements above.)
4. It helps you sleep. (I have found this to be true.)
6. Masturbating can ease body aches and menstrual pain. (I have shared this gem with my daughter.)
12. There are no downsides to it. (Pleasure is good!)
7. It relieves stress. (I saved this one for last because, oh boy, it really does help.)

I’d like to think that, in this day and age, there is no shame imposed on masturbation, but I imagine there still is. Let’s make sure not to pass it on to the next generation.

As an author of erotic stories, I may have underutilized the masturbation concept. Jacqs does masturbate twice in Stuck in Between to release sexual tension, but I’ve never included it as a regular part of a character’s life. The women in my stories usually spend a good deal of their time having partnered sex. Perhaps it’s time for a character to self-sooth using masturbation. Samantha maybe? Would you like to read about a female well versed in masturbation techniques? What do you think? Please let me know.

Warm hugs,


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9 thoughts on “Why Every Woman Should Masturbate

  1. Would love to read stories where self soothing was was included more!
    Formerly…Cinnamon now Kendra FB won’t let me use it anymore

  2. Ditto to everything you have said Blakely. It’s such a shame that lots of women still feel guilty about indulging in this wonderful, self satisfying experience !
    I think it would be great to include this in one of the books in your series. I’m sure Samantha would approve!

  3. I definitely concur. Self pleasure is extremely important. It’s important to learn what your body likes and doesn’t. It can be a very empowering experience and you are right, it feels damn good! I would imagine Sam being a mom and having some of the troubles she has had that it’s a great stress reliever.

  4. I have recently written a scene involving this and was wondering how it would be received. I love this post because it gives me the confidence to do it. Now just to see how it goes over in a non erotica book! Thank you for such an enlightening post!

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