A long time male friend of mine and I have this ongoing debate about the female orgasm. According to him, almost all of his lovers have been able to orgasm vaginally and if you do the math, either he is extraordinarily lucky or has a wonder-schlong or a good percentage of the women were faking it. I believe and have expressed adamantly, that most of the women must have been faking it.
From several different sources I have found roughly the same statistic. 70%-80% percent of woman CANNOT have orgasms from intercourse alone. I, myself, fall into this category. In addition, several sources repeated this same sad statistic that 10-15 percent of women have trouble reaching orgasm at all.
Why does this erotic writer care about this information? I will tell you. I’ve just recently started a new series called Bound By Your Love that will have different female protagonists and I want to represent the real woman. Sure, some women are lucky enough to orgasm from penetration alone but most of us cannot.
Last week I posted a blog on masturbation and I would like to reiterate that the better you know your body as a woman, the better you can teach your lover what you need for satisfying sex.
My male friend felt that a woman’s lack of vaginal orgasm may be psychological. I would argue, and did, that it’s physiological.
Did you know that the clitoris is the only organ whose sole purpose is sexual pleasure? I have often wondered why it’s situated above the vaginal opening as it seems to be a flawed design. If the clitoris was located just inside the vagina…wow! I also wonder why such a small percentage of women can have orgasms solely through intercourse and yet in movies and books that’s all it takes to get a woman to cum, leaving women feeling somehow inferior because they can’t orgasm that way. A lot of porn, if not most, depicts women orgasming in an explosive manner just from penetration.
I’m still cultivating new ways to describe the incredible release that comes with great sex. I’m always looking for new words and ways to elevate my writing. So the research continues! 😉
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